A reader ask…
“Michael, I am a complete textbook over thinker. I just got out of a 3 year relationship 2 months ago because she cheated on me.
I’m a pretty decent looking guy of 20 years old, 6’4 and average build. Born and raised in the south, super chivalrous, intelligent.
Recently I made a tinder profile and met this amazing girl. She just as smart, incredibly chill about asking/answering questions, attractive, love chivalries, but I think she is hiding some deeply rooted insecurities.
We have a lot in common and had a amazing time on our first date which lead back to her place.
After making deeper connections with our past experiences it got real intense and we was on the verge of having sex but I chickened out and left. (she told me that she never have sex on the
first date.)
We went on a few more dates within a week time-framed and every time something was about to lead to something more intimate with her, I punked out and left.
One day while at her place, I asked her did she date anybody else and she said “yes”, but ask me did I do the same. She also inform me that I was insecure.
So now I haven’t seen her in awhile and when I text her she take at least 45 minutes to respond which it takes me about 5-10 minutes.
I really like this girl and don’t want to mess up getting to know her better.
I mean, when we were on our dates, I always had her full attention, no telephone interruptions.
She even offered to pay for some of the dates sometimes, she’s really a keeper for me.
So what should I do next? ”
— Randall, GA
Thanks for the question Randall.
After reading your question, this seems to be the problem with a lot of men, especially when you have the ability to spend a great amount of time with the woman.
As for you Randall, you miss three very good opportunities with this chick to let her know you were interested in her.
So basically you struck yourself out.
Strike one:
You went on your first date with her and had a great time. She invited you back to her place, y’all talk and it got intense naturally from a connection y’all had with each other.
What did you do, shot her down, because you felt it was the wrong thing to do.
Strike two:
You went on a second date and the same thing happen. You shot her down again, because all you wanted to do was talk.
Strike three:
You went on a third date and the very same thing happen again. This time you got real sensitive and insecure. You ask her were you the only person she’s dating and when she told you she talk to other guys, you immediately freaked out and felt insecure.
Randall, when a women gives you that much of her time and attention.
She likes you.
When a woman has good open communication and doesn’t get offended with certain questions.
She likes you.
When a woman invites you to her house, no matter if she does it all the time or not.
She likes you.
But when you just want to take things super slow and put a time limit on when things suppose to happen that’s when you kill your chances of winning the girl.
This is why you get friend-zoned by women.
She basically invited you into her close circle and all you want to do is talk about your past and how much you enjoyed y’all date.
From here on out, you just need to let things happen and play itself out.
As for what you should do now since you striked out and is very anxious to get one last chance back in the batter box with her.
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