There’s nothing wrong with being a little selfish.
I read in a forum today…
“Hey, guys,
I’m in need of some help. So basically I’ve been talking to this girl for about 3 months now. At first, conversations were light and we just sent each other funny videos and pictures. Then once I came back home from college, we actually started seeing each other.
Since our colleges are so far away, at first I wasn’t anticipating anything serious with her.
Due to my last relationship failing because of long distance, I didn’t want that to happen again. BUT now I’m starting to really like her and once that happens, I just want them to myself lol.
But we’ve only been on 4 actual dates, 5th one coming up this Thursday.
We’d see each other more but our schedules don’t align. She works 16 hour shifts and when she’s off, I’m working at a real estate firm. So it sucks.
But anyways, when should I approach this conversation? I don’t want it to be too soon and scare her off but something like this will be on my mind for a while.”
— hgriffin17
When you do things backwards, it put a lot of pressure on you that you shouldn’t even have. I really don’t get it with guys these days and even maybe you.
If you like a girl and you could see yourself dating her in the long run, why not find out from the beginning, if she’s looking for the same thing.
It doesn’t makes sense and it’s a complete waste of time to beat around the bush.
And here’s the reason why.
When you make it known from the get go that you are interested in getting to know her and possibly maybe something long-term if everything works out.
Now she has it in the back of her mind and if she really likes you, she going to do her best to get to that status quickly.
Women want to know where things are headed even before they head there.
It gives them a sense of direction and a little bit of motivation.
But when you hide your true intentions, then you basically keeping her on edge and to not get hurt she will act accordingly until she meets someone that gives her that comfort and future commitment to look forward too.
Don’t make the mistake like the guy above, real men don’t do that unless you just want a friend with benefits type of thing with the girl.
Anyways,
Let me get you on the right track so that you don’t have these problems and never have to have “THE TALK”.
That’s something you ask your significant other when you want to talk to your kids about sex…not when you trying to talk to another adult.
Sounds so ridiculous to me.
You can avoid a lot of these mistakes you hear and see other guys make by joining my Dating Wisdom Newsletter.
Knowing a woman’s future intentions for the start gives you a one-up on any man that tries to steal her away from you.
The more information you know about a woman, the more advantages you have over your competition.
And I’m all about helping you dominate the dating field to get the girl you always dream of.
Why waste time with other women that don’t even compare.
It’s your choice though.
You can continue to try to do it alone and fail.
Or,
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Michael Thompson
Dating Consultant