Are you more aroused by porn than actual women?

I read in a forum today…

“I’m a 23 year old guy and I do look at women and think they’re beautiful but I don’t look at a girl and think, I want to have sex with her. I’m not really sexually motivated all that much, I don’t really fantasize about girls I crush on or anything.

I’m more motivated by her beauty and if we connect on an emotional level.

I’m rarely immediately attracted to someone, I don’t really get crushes either.

I have to get to know them and talk to them first and make sure I feel comfortable around them before a real attraction develops.

Don’t get me wrong, I do want to have sex but I’m not sure if what I have is normal or not.

To be honest, I think I’m more aroused by porn than by actual women but this might be because I’m a virgin, so the fact I haven’t experienced sex yet means it’s not developed into an intense desire yet.

I actually didn’t start masturbating and watching porn until I was 18 years old.

It’s not because it was forbidden in my house, I just never really had the motivation prior to my 18th birthday.

I never really thought of sex all that much in high school.

Is my mindset around women normal?”

— GuitarGuy7

Part of his mindset is on the right track as far how you develop an emotional connection with women, but the other part is way off road headed into quicksand.

As for the porn, it’s just his way of telling himself that he’s afraid to talk to
real women.

You only watch porn to masturbate because you’re desiring sex.

Anyways,

Here’s his problem and it could be yours too:

Stop taking the easy way out to get off sexually.

It’s not the same and it will never be.

I created my Dating Wisdom Newsletter just for guys like you who afraid to face the real world.

Yes, porn star actresses are beautiful, have nice bodies and are real people, but watching them and getting off is just a fantasy you’re playing out with the type of woman you would love to actually be with.

And you know what?

She exists in the REAL WORLD.

She’s not just a figment of your imagination.

You have to get off your scary ass and go find her because she is waiting for you to make it
happen.

Your mindset is very important when it comes to dating.

It plays a major part of how successful you are.

For example, take a virgin guy that just met his first girl, they date for a week and then she breaks up with him.

He feels his life is over because she was the one for him.

But a guy with the right mindset would think like this:

That was a learning experience for me, I kind of know what type of woman I’m looking for now
because I only need “ONE” to be happy.

Two different mindsets, two different outcomes.

What is your mindset like?

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Michael Thompson
Dating Consultant