A reader ask…

“Michael, I realized this for a long time that I’m my own enemy and yet I’m unable to change.

I look in the mirror and have no trouble seeing all the qualities I believe I’m lacking and compare them to other men.

I’m only five feet six inches, a little chubby and wish I was able to smile more and not have to fake it.

My shyness has cause me to miss out on so much in life.

I never went to my junior ball or senior prom in high school. Even though I really wanted too, but I never could build the courage to ask a woman to go out with me.

I have a huge problem of replaying moments when people either insults me or embarrasses me which weighs in heavily on my psyche.

I’m too concern about what other people think of me.

I’m not asking to be the life of the party, the center of attention, but I definitely want to be recognized more and respected.

I also want to become more attractive and be able to talk with a woman without not being able to look into her eyes.

I’m tired of being this scared, shy, single and pathetic version of me. Can you help?”

— Braylon G., AL

Thanks for the question Braylon.

I know what you are going through, but the fact that you want to change is a positive step in the right direction.

The first thing I want you to do is stop comparing yourself to other people.

We are all unique in our on way and that’s what you have to find out about yourself.

What is your Uniqueness? What makes you different from me and other guys?

This is what will help you stand out and be more recognized by women.

I’m six feet even and I sometimes still want to be taller like six feet and four inches, but it’s not going to happen for me. It’s probably not going happen for you either.

You have to embrace who you are as a person first, then others will start embracing you too.

And for the record, why should you give a damn about what others think of you?

Just be yourself, you are not going to be able to please everybody.

With this in mind,

As for building up the courage to talking to women, I highly recommend signing up for Michael’s Dating Wisdom Newsletter here

I will teach you how to bring out that coolness about you without comprising your values that will make you more attractive to women.

When you are ready to bring out your confident alter ego like Steve Urkel did on the sitcom “Family Matters” when he turn himself into Stefan Urquelle.

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Michael Thompson