A private investigator might need to be hired.
I read in a forum today…
“I feel so lost at the moment.
This girl I’ve liked for about 5-6 months now, I found out at a social event today how she’s slept or is sleeping with some random guy.
It just felt like such a punch in the gut.
I really can’t explain it.
The girl was present when it was mentioned, she seemed really embarrassed that I heard (though she did laugh it off).
My face was just burning up after that, I just thought “Wow.
What a fucking huge miscalculation I made. What a fool I am.”
For the whole 5-6 months I’ve been chatting with her a bit, talking to her friends and so on.
She seems to like me.
Then this.
Literally, everything about the girl said to me that she’s a really nice, innocent, “good” girl.
Someone who would be interested in having a really decent boyfriend.
She comes from a nice family, went to an all-girl school, has good manners, talks nicely, seems to get shy with sort of “off-color” stuff and just seemed all around lovely.
Now I hear she’s fucking some random guy who’s like the group sex toy.
I feel so, so disappointed.
I can’t help but think that whoever that guy is, the bastard got further with her in 10 pathetic minutes than I have in 6 months.
I don’t even get why the girl wanted to get coffee with me, stuff like that if she just wants to sleep around.
Even worse, I think I may know the guy she slept with.
He’s an arrogant wanker, thinks he’s amazing.
I guess he must be
I feel like utter shit. I’ve had a bit of a cry, as pussyish as that is.
Never have I felt like I’ve totally got someone wrong, but I have with her.
All my worrying, all my feelings of “Wow, this girl seems special, maybe she likes me?” has been utterly futile.
She probably never gave a fuck about me, or my feelings, for that whole time period.
I’m so, so, so sick of seeing horrible guys getting with girls all the time, especially the ones I like.
It pisses me off.
I just don’t understand why the stuff I have to offer – security, humor, passion, genuine feelings and caring – are apparently worth absolutely nothing.
Right now, all I do is sit on the sidelines, watching asshats creak bed springs with the girls I’ve been building something up with.
I’m done now. I’m sorry.
— TheSolitaryMan
This is a prime example of what happens when you beat around the bush with women.
You end up losing out.
When you don’t know how to really get to know a woman, you find out something that kills every belief or perception you had of her.
Why wait til that happens?
You need to learn how to ask the right questions about women so that you can instantly know if she’s worth building something with.
Not carry on conversations for more than 6 months and find out things that I can get from her in 20 minutes.
Let me tell you a little secret buddy that you should always keep in your head.
All women have a little freakiness inside of them.
Some just have a lot more.
But your job is to figure out just how much she got, because then you will understand what type of women she is.
Whether she’s the adventurous type, the mellow type, or so forth.
You will never find this out by asking bland questions that makes you seem like a nice guy.
You got to be bold if you want to get dates in this new generation.
Times have changed, women have changed.
And being afraid to get to know the REAL them, you will always lose her to another guy.
That’s why I highly recommend you check out my Dating Wisdom Newsletter.
It will teach you how to really go deeper with a woman and learn who she really is.
You will never have to…
…guess or make assumptions about a woman again
…worry if she really likes you or not
…wait six months to get blindsided by some secret you can know in 10-15 minutes of talking to her
Don’t be that guy that women always friend-zones, guys intimidate and suffer instead enjoy being considered, have dignity and acknowledge by women.
Get off the sideline while men pick off the women you like.
It’s time for you to get in the game and win.
And I can help you do that.
But like everything else, it’s your choice.
I only can give you the option and the best one I have is on the next line.
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Michael Thompson
Dating Consultant