Are you just starting to try out dating at age 32?
I read in a forum today…
“I was once very large, weighing in excess of 470 pounds. I have since slimmed down to 190 pounds but being so big for most of my adult life has caused me to be inexperienced with dating and I’m trying to get started at 32 years old.
I decided to get my feet wet in online dating and just check it out.
I set up an eHarmony account. I didn’t pay for it and I didn’t upload pictures, I was over 400 pounds of course, and I didn’t add any information.
I was just browsing around when in November of 2017 and I was matched up with this woman at work.
It threw me off since I figured someone like her would have a boyfriend but at this time it was merely a pipe dream. Since I had no pictures or info, it’s highly unlikely she knew it was me.
Our company set up a bowling outing in March.
I normally don’t do these things but I knew she would be there so I went.
I’m terrible in crowds and am not one to mingle and start conversations.
Last week I go to IM her to kind of try to pick up the conversation again since I was so busy when she IM’d me the last time and I didn’t say much but she’s not there.
My heart sank as I feel like I missed the opportunity.
I have rarely dated so I’m not sure if she is interested in me? It seems like some of the signals were that she was?
I’m thinking now of just doing it and asking her out on Facebook as that is the only method I have of contacting her now.
So much time has passed if she was interested will she still be interested?
I know I probably blew my chance but I feel like I have to at least try and I want to know the best way to do it and if I am correct in my thinking that at one point she was interested?”
— Quagmire243
Wouldn’t knowing if she didn’t like you would be a lot better than wondering “what if?”
When a woman clearly give you signs that she’s interested and you are not sure what they mean and you like her…take a shot at getting her number.
The last thing you want to do is kill your chances by guessing or assuming when it just takes 5 seconds to get an answer from her.
But I’m not that bold Michael, it makes me feel awkward, I don’t know what to say or come off too strong just in case she doesn’t feel that way and just being nice.
Ok, do you like her?
If yes, then it’s time to man up.
Don’t you get tired of tortureing yourself with the “what if” questions?
What if…
…I would have just said something to her
…I ask her for her phone number
…I just had some balls and ask her out
…I wasn’t some scared little pussy that just freezes up in the presence of a beautiful woman
I could go on and on with the “what if’s” but you get my point.
You are never going to overcome something if you don’t ever try to defeat it.
It’s too too too many women out here single that looking for a great guy like you and you’re hiding under a rock because you lack simple skills.
You don’t have to be rich, you just need a job.
You don’t have to drive a porche, you just need a decent car.
You can be living with your mother, you just have to have plans to leave one day.
Everybody has flaws, even beautiful women.
So you can stop thinking you need to be perfect.
You don’t.
All you have to do is know how to start a conversation and take it to get the information you need to determine if this girl is what you’re looking for.
I’m not helping you to get women to just try and fuck them.
That’s a complete waste of time. (trust me on this)
I’m helping you find a woman that you can build something with, accept your flaws and inspire you to want to be more out of life.
That’s what my Master Seducer System is teaching you to do and if you want to see if it can help you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting to date at 24, 32 or even 45. The principles I teach you will work if you use them.
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Michael Thompson
Dating Consultant