Tylenol won’t help you but this surely will.

I read in a forum today…

“I’m dating someone new, but I’m not feeling the spark. I dunno, she seems perfect on paper.

Like, genuinely wonderful and beautiful and wow.

But no spark.

I can’t tell if I’m emotionally unavailable or if there’s something off that I can’t put into words.

Few of my thoughts:

I spent the better part of a year getting over an ex. Only dating now because I thought I was ready. But I’m still comparing stuff to her, so I’m not sure if I am, the closer I get to this new person.

The spark has always faded. Even in perfect situations.

I want to be honest with this girl, but I don’t want to hurt her or poison something unnecessarily. I could very well just be thinking too hard about this.”

— Nogan

First off of all, you looking for a spark that is not going to start itself. Once you make a real connection with a woman that’s when the fire starts to burn.

I feel you on this though, being hungover over an ex and not knowing how to move on from it.

Hell, I had to go to therapy because it felt like I needed to hear something from her but never got it and finally came to ease with it.

And, from this day and any day forth, you are going to always compare other women to her, that’s just how it is, so don’t fuck up something if you really like this girl.

Here’s the problem you’re having with this new chica.

You’re starting over and you don’t really know anything about her that matters to you.

So sit down over a cup of coffee with her (that seems to be the thing now).

And get the information you need from her to see whether it’s you or she’s just not what you’re looking for.

It’s that simple.

Your ex will always be apart of your life whether it was good or bad, but don’t let that hinder you from moving forward.

Ok back to the new chick.

You want to know what you need to find out to make a more in tune decision, then I highly recommend my Dating Wisdom Newsletter as your guide. You’ll discover the biggest secret to making the next woman your best woman.

You’ll easily become sober over your ex and have the time of your life.

You have a lot of life to live and there’s no need to mope around feeling pity for yourself when you clearly have ladies ready to start a new chapter with you.

Don’t throw the candle away before you even light and smell the scent, just give the aroma sometime to settle in and do its thing.

The point?

Just because you are reminiscing over your ex doesn’t mean you’re not ready to date. If you’re having problems connecting with other women, that could be a mental issue, too.

Let’s face it.

Having an ex sucks.

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Michael Thompson
Dating Consultant